Sample Separation Agreement

I’ve been searching for a few good samples of Separation Agreements, but it sure hasn’t been easy.
My Divorce Lawyer is quick to point out that there are no Template Separation Agreements that he pulls out and gets you to fill in the blanks.  But I imagine that every Family Law Attorney that deals with Separation [...]

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Children of BDP ex-Wife Now Blame Me

Here it is.  The very thing I was threatened with.
Now my BDP ex-wife tells me that the kids are ‘uncomfortable’ when I tell them I miss them.  I’m told they are saying ‘now that he’s not living here – it’s just not the same…’, and that the 14 year old is very angry at ME – because of [...]

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F*^k You in under 30 seconds

It is still amazing for me to observe the extreme anger in my ex-wife.
Just the other day I had to drop by to pick up an item I had borrowed to one of the kids.  Initially I drop up to the house with happy anticipation of a visit with my step-daughter, but the ex-wife opened [...]

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BPD Meets Mr Nice Guy

On the advice, nay, insistance of a close, trusted family member, today I read through much of the book No More Mr. Nice Guy!. 
This book helps me turn the light on myself, as it were, to see what beliefs and patterns I am responsible for – that most certainly contributed to the emotional cycle that ended my marriage.
I’ll [...]

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Relationship Addicts

As I’m reading through Love and Loathing, I’ve come across a few sections that made me sit up straight and pay attention – and a few sections that made me distictly uncomfortable.
Page 38 of the booklette says that it’s hard for the non-BDP to move toward the things you really want with any conviction until [...]

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For Men Who Are Victims of Abuse

Ok.
It’s only been a few dozen pages of Love and Loathing and I feel like some of the secure pins holding me up have started to spring loose. 
My hammok shutters and lerches.
And I can see that I have been living a pattern that others know well enough to write a book on it.  To my [...]

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Divorce Humor

My friends and family have been there for me over the past few months since I’ve separated from my wife.  But my family are also being good freinds by lovingly holding a variety of ‘mirrors’ up for me to look into.
Recenly these books were recommended to me – partly because I’m told that I might be [...]

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The Roller Coaster Ride

Ending a Marriage is an emotional roller coaster ride.  Even if you are the one leaving the relationship – after years of real effort and a complete understanding of the unhappy differences - there’s no escaping the upset and emotional termoil… but, there are some proven methods that help re-direct your thinking and help you start [...]

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Drawing up Divorce Papers

It is unhappy times that bring us together, you and I.
Time for me to draw up a separation agreement.  My marriage has ended after just over four years – and the unhappy task of dividing the assests, debts and child visitation, is now upon me.
Family Law in Canada has been shaped through the decades by countless [...]

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